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Syazwanie Winston Abdullah
Disclaimer : I received this copy from Pansing in commutation for my honest review.

I have never liked reading autobiographies or memoirs. And this book reinstated my believe 😂

It started out dandy. The first few capacity were funny, quirky and witty. I felt connected with Christina. But past those capacity, she was but rambling on. Reminiscing about the good erstwhile days. What has been, what could be and what ifs.

The only affair that kept my attention were the books and authors she mentioned. An insight

Disclaimer : I received this copy from Pansing in substitution for my honest review.

I accept never liked reading autobiographies or memoirs. And this book reinstated my believe 😂

It started out great. The first few chapters were funny, quirky and witty. I felt continued with Christina. But past those chapters, she was just rambling on. Reminiscing nearly the good former days. What has been, what could exist and what ifs.

The only thing that kept my attention were the books and authors she mentioned. An insight on the authors life we rarely know.

Apart from that, I do non encounter this volume fulfilling the hope of its championship. These were her own personal experiences (yes, it's her memoir indeed) but heck, it started out so good but somewhere, somehow, the writing got lost in the author's own fascination with her words.

To quote Stephen King from his book "On Writing" which goes "In many cases when a reader puts a story aside because information technology 'got ho-hum,' the boredom arose because the writer grew enchanted with his powers of description and lost sight of his priority, which is to go along the ball rolling." unquote.

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Orláith
May 03, 2018 rated it information technology was amazing
The Art of Not Falling Apart by Christina Patterson should be required reading for anyone tempted to do just that, to requite upwards.

While I easily could accept devoured this book in one sitting I chose to read it in chunks over the form of a few days to better brand it last.

The author'southward style of writing is wonderful. I've found a lot of books proclaiming to exist similar to TAoNFA tend toward the pompous just when reading this book I felt the author talking to me. In reading her words we became friends.

The Fine art of Not Falling Apart by Christina Patterson should be required reading for anyone tempted to do just that, to give up.

While I easily could accept devoured this book in i sitting I chose to read it in chunks over the course of a few days to better make information technology last.

The writer's fashion of writing is wonderful. I've constitute a lot of books proclaiming to be similar to TAoNFA tend toward the pompous but when reading this book I felt the writer talking to me. In reading her words we became friends.

While not every passage was relevant to me, I enjoyed each and every one of them.

I can honestly meet this book being picked upwards again and again, just to remind myself of the art of holding on, of not giving up.

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B.
Feb 03, 2019 rated information technology it was amazing
I choose this volume, I will admit, purely based on the title.
I felt similar falling apart when I did not get the chore I prepared for over two months for (declining the interview score by ane stupid point) and did not get the flat I wanted because it turned out not to be as first-class as I idea and could have been a potential waste of coin. So the new life I was wrapping upward for this new year came all crumbling downwardly within the first calendar month.
I was tired, I was injure, I needed something to cheer me up, to
I choose this book, I volition admit, purely based on the championship.
I felt like falling apart when I did non get the job I prepared for over two months for (declining the interview score by i stupid signal) and did not get the apartment I wanted because information technology turned out non to be as splendid as I thought and could have been a potential waste of money. So the new life I was wrapping upwardly for this new year came all crumbling down within the first calendar month.
I was tired, I was hurt, I needed something to cheer me up, to help me see things from some other perspective.
I wanted a cocky book that wasn't a cocky volume.

So thank y'all Christina Patterson considering your volume did exactly what I needed.
Give thanks you for sharing your story and your friend'southward stories and for giving them a voice on how they managed to get through all the crap life decided to threw at them.

This book definitely put a grinning on my face, made me teary eyed a couple of times and help me realised that what I exercise is enough.

"Nearly every nighttime of my life, I have gone to bed asking myself what I've achieved and concluding that it isn't enough. I'm beginning to larn that information technology is sometimes OK just to say: I had a nice day."

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Linda Hepworth
May 10, 2018 rated it really liked information technology
Freud referred to love and work every bit "the cornerstones of our humanness" and although Christina Patterson's search for love was leaving something to exist desired, at to the lowest degree she felt that her love of her chore was keeping her going through life'south ups and downs. Withal, when the editor of The Contained, the paper she had worked for for 10 years, informed her that he had decided to "freshen the pages upwards" and was making her redundant, she was suddenly faced with the loss of ane of those cornerstones, o Freud referred to dearest and work equally "the cornerstones of our humanness" and although Christina Patterson's search for love was leaving something to exist desired, at least she felt that her love of her job was keeping her going through life's ups and downs. However, when the editor of The Contained, the paper she had worked for for ten years, informed her that he had decided to "freshen the pages up" and was making her redundant, she was suddenly faced with the loss of ane of those cornerstones, one she had spent her whole working life building upwards. Fearful about what her future held, struggling with the profoundly undermining nature of rejection, she nevertheless found the inner resources to embark on this book. Information technology is a story which intertwines the experiences of others with her own as she explores the nature of loss, disappointment and resilience, in their many varied forms, and examines the various ways in which people discover it possible to move frontward from personal crises.
This searingly honest and moving book comprises a serial of conversations Christina had with people in her life who had faced hardship in one grade or another. It presently becomes very clear that 1 of the reasons people were enabled to open to her with such honesty was considering of the perceptive empathy she demonstrated in her interactions with them. I was a subscriber to The Independent during the menstruum when Christina was writing her columns and was e'er eager to read her thought-provoking, sensitive and, at their very heart deeply humane, reflections on a wide range of topics. When those columns ended then abruptly I felt a existent sense of loss, too as a belief that the paper had lost someone, and something, essentially of import. All the same, whilst reading this volume, I became enlightened that the author, withal painful and upsetting her brutal dismissal, has lost none of her skills in getting to the heart of the affair in her writing. She manages to convey a belief that the troughs of life's experiences can be climbed out of, nevertheless dour information technology may feel when downward in their depths – nevertheless, whilst you are in them it's some comfort to discover that friends, food, crisps and vino can brand the troughs feel infinitely more than tolerable and survivable! She achieves this without whatever sense of dismissing the pain of hard experiences simply rather with the supportive message that information technology really is worth hanging on to hope.
What a roller-coaster of a ride this book took me and my emotions on: i moment I was laughing out loud at some of the hilarious situations described, and then I'd observe myself of a sudden moved to tears past the poignant, eye-breaking nature of some of the life-stories which emerged. I also institute myself feeling angry about the lack of humanity shown by then many organisations when it comes to making people redundant. "Streamlining" may well make sense in economical and efficiency terms, but all too often takes no account of the level of human misery, even despair, which can outcome – I retrieve that if The Contained all the same existed in print form, having read this powerful and moving book, I would have been cancelling my subscription! Yet, I practice believe that the author has demonstrated that she has emerged stronger than ever and that, to paraphrase office of her Frieda Hughes quote, she has admittedly "washed her best with the tools she had to hand." It was a joy to be reminded of but how perceptive, incisive and sensitive a writer Christina Patterson is, and how elegant and engaging her prose always is. This is non a "preachy self-help" book but it is one which volition make anyone struggling with loss, stress, a sense of failure and lack of self-worth experience rather less isolated, able to start to believe that there tin can exist a better futurity.

My cheers to Real Readers and Atlantic Books for sending me a copy of this book in substitution for an honest review.

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Emilie
This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. CP writes about wonderful people and their ordinary/extraordinary life stories of hardship and pain and Human Nature, but the format doesn't work for me. Had to terminate subsequently the 43th occurrence of 'I was sitting in my beautiful, successful and resilient friend Dora or Maura or Nora'southward massive kitchen in her Islington/Stoke Newington/Highgate converted-church flat, eating crisps. "Poetry is difficult", she told me.' CP writes nearly wonderful people and their ordinary/boggling life stories of hardship and pain and Man Nature, but the format doesn't work for me. Had to stop after the 43th occurrence of 'I was sitting in my beautiful, successful and resilient friend Dora or Maura or Nora'southward massive kitchen in her Islington/Stoke Newington/Highgate converted-church building flat, eating crisps. "Poetry is hard", she told me.' ...more
Shruti Badole
Feb 13, 2021 rated information technology really liked it
Such a wonderful book. Information technology showed me examples of so many brave, resilient people who keep going in spite of and so many bricks that life throws at them. It reminded me to count my blessings and gave me perspective. It reminded me to celebrate this sweetness ride of life, to cherish simple things that give you joy, exist it chocolate, a walk on a sunny twenty-four hour period, a glass of wine, and things that yous are passionate about, your hobbies. I am making the book sound corny, only it is far from that! It gave me an interes Such a wonderful book. It showed me examples of and so many brave, resilient people who keep going in spite of so many bricks that life throws at them. It reminded me to count my blessings and gave me perspective. It reminded me to celebrate this sweetness ride of life, to cherish uncomplicated things that give you joy, be it chocolate, a walk on a sunny day, a glass of wine, and things that you are passionate near, your hobbies. I am making the book sound corny, but it is far from that! It gave me an interesting perspective about pessimism and optimism, a belief of the Italian philosopher, Antonio Gramsci, in "pessimism of the intellect, optimism of the will". That's i of the things I am going to remember when I call back of this book.

I am giving it 4 stars because, in spite of the glowing paragraph I have written above, for a long time, I also kept checking how much per centum of the book I take finished. The stories are sad and wonderful at the same fourth dimension, but too at that place were so many of them that by the fourth dimension I was nearing the end of the volume, I had forgotten nearly of the names of the people and even function of the stories and was a tad confused when the author was talking about the people she had mentioned in the previous chapters. There were too a few things I did not concur with. The author is great and she has put a lot of piece of work in writing this volume, so it makes me experience a footling bad nearly "criticising" these two aspects, but well, it is what information technology is.

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Helen Elgin
Jun 01, 2018 rated information technology it was amazing
Wow. Just wow.
An utterly unflinching and powerful volume.
Lol'd and wept.
Cheers, Christina Patterson.
Amie Rennie
Whilst the author is a clearly skilled writer, this felt to me very much similar reading a series of columns from a paper on "bad things that myself and people I know have survived that I will write about vaguely". I don't call back Patterson has adopted her fashion well plenty to translate into an enjoyable book, there is no period and the lack of linear construction makes information technology difficult to see her signal at times. And don't get me started on the crisps.
The best I could garner from it was that she reiterat
Whilst the author is a clearly skilled author, this felt to me very much like reading a series of columns from a newspaper on "bad things that myself and people I know take survived that I will write well-nigh vaguely". I don't retrieve Patterson has adopted her mode well enough to translate into an enjoyable book, in that location is no menses and the lack of linear structure makes it difficult to see her point at times. And don't get me started on the crisps.
The best I could garner from it was that she reiterated the ideas in life that have kept her and virtually people going; adept friends, working difficult at your own happiness, and not giving upwardly. She has intended to write a book to assist people in hard times that is not in the manner of a traditional self assist book; a premise which I do admire.
Not the type of book I would usually read, and a story I couldn't relate or identify to, because at that place was no story.
I'm sure information technology will be someone else'southward cup of tea, just I tin't help feel if she wasn't already a famous journalist and had gone through some seriously bad life events, no i would have noticed this volume.
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Angela L
I approached this with high expectations and, whilst there are some wonderfully moving stories within, came away slightly disppaointed.
For me information technology was merely a niggling besides disjointed. A lot of the personal stories were referred to piecemeal in multiple chapters and that meant that, for me, they lost a fiddling of their impact.
I would have preferred a start and end to each tale without lots of "more almost that later on" as that would have made it a more than coherent read for me.
Brand no mistake though, in that location ar
I approached this with loftier expectations and, whilst there are some wonderfully moving stories within, came abroad slightly disppaointed.
For me it was just a picayune too disjointed. A lot of the personal stories were referred to piecemeal in multiple chapters and that meant that, for me, they lost a little of their touch on.
I would accept preferred a start and finish to each tale without lots of "more most that later on" as that would have made information technology a more than coherent read for me.
Brand no mistake though, at that place are plenty of stories and examples of the kind of sh*t (challenges) that life can throw at people and some of the sheer resilience shown is pretty darned humbling.
Death, disease and low are amongst many bug tackled yet the book is overwhelmingly positive and testament to the onetime adage of what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
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Imi
Mar 23, 2021 rated information technology it was ok  · review of some other edition
Recommended to Imi by: Guardian Books podcast (03/07/18)
Hmm. This started off great and I was really invested in Christina's story in the opening chapters, just the rest of the book didn't live up to that. There is very picayune construction, and although it's personal and contains a lot of Christina's own thoughts, it was more her asking her modest group of friends what bad things take happened to them and how they dealt with it. So it's personal, but not at the same time. And equally her friendship is a very pocket-sized demographic (artists and writers etc, who are Hmm. This started off great and I was actually invested in Christina'due south story in the opening chapters, but the rest of the volume didn't live upwards to that. There is very piddling construction, and although it's personal and contains a lot of Christina's ain thoughts, it was more than her request her modest group of friends what bad things have happened to them and how they dealt with it. So information technology's personal, but non at the same time. And as her friendship is a very small demographic (artists and writers etc, who are definitely not complete failures...ironically considering one of the main themes is failure), information technology was actually difficult for me to feel properly invested and interested in all these stories. I also had some problems with a few of Christina'southward opinions, especially surrounding chronic illness. In the end, not my cup of tea. ...more
Geraldine
I wasn't certain about this book to start with. Information technology starts basically with the writer being summarily sacked from her senior task on the Independent newspaper. I thought initially she would exist 'Glenda Slag', smug, superior, entitled and bubble-living.

Only, you know what, she, and this book, were the polar opposite. She spent very fiddling fourth dimension in the volume wallowing in self pity, although she did acknowledge how miserable, frightened and alone she felt.

But so she spent a lot of time interviewing people

I wasn't sure about this book to start with. Information technology starts basically with the author existence summarily sacked from her senior job on the Independent paper. I thought initially she would be 'Glenda Slag', smug, superior, entitled and bubble-living.

Simply, you lot know what, she, and this book, were the polar opposite. She spent very little fourth dimension in the book wallowing in self pity, although she did acknowledge how miserable, frightened and alone she felt.

But and so she spent a lot of time interviewing people who had experienced and were living with setbacks, trauma and life'south bad luck. A lesser writer could accept made this pious and sanctimonious, and full of bland platitudes. She didn't. She besides didn't quite use my philosophy that 'people are astonishing the manner they rise to whatever challenge that is thrown at them'. But she demonstrates this past vignettes and snippets from the lives of others, handled sensitively.

She comes over equally thoughtful, and states that she was brought up to believe that the most important thing is to consider other people. That doesn't make her a doormat: she'due south highly intelligent, very well read and knowledgeable, simply does non feel whatever need to hammer this dwelling, in the manner that many (actually not so very intelligent eg Boris Johnson-blazon person) others practice.

It isn't really a self-assistance book, and I don't call back she set put deliberately to exist uplifting, but I think information technology does that by shining the light on the ordinary lives of ordinary people, and I think the book is strengthening and supportive. Self help without New Age wanky woo.

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Purple
May 05, 2018 rated information technology it was astonishing
'I accept never had a center assault, but I think I now have some idea what it's like. For days after I walked out of that office on Kensington High Street, I felt as if I had something crouching on my chest.' Christina Patterson'due south wonderful book starts its first chapter, entitled 'Kafka, eat your heart out' with the loss of her job.

Christina Patterson is i of my dearest friends - that'due south the disclaimer. Information technology's not the reason I loved this book and read it in ane sitting. She's an splendid writer and

'I have never had a heart set on, but I think I at present accept some thought what it's similar. For days subsequently I walked out of that function on Kensington High Street, I felt as if I had something crouching on my chest.' Christina Patterson's wonderful book starts its first affiliate, entitled 'Kafka, eat your heart out' with the loss of her job.

Christina Patterson is one of my honey friends - that's the disclaimer. It's not the reason I loved this volume and read it in one sitting. She's an excellent author and her book is gripping and searingly honest. It covers a couple of years in the life of Christina and it weaves in other people's stories with her own on dealing with disappointment - and yes, on ane level it'south about resilience in the face of loss only it'southward really almost the man status and how to live life. Information technology'southward original and funny and poignant and clever. Information technology's somehow more than the sum of its parts - the different stories and approaches. I feel enriched to have read information technology.

Afterwards in the book Christina writes 'Books take taught me that you are never in a place that someone hasn't been in before.' This book did that for me.

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Dawn Woods
Started well. Went on also long
Janet Camilleri
How exercise people cope and go on going when life throws them a curve brawl? Christina begins by talking nigh the pain of being made redundant from a task she loved - before going on to share her ain story of "losing her religion" - both topics I personally identified with. Throughout the book she talks about chronic pain, illness, disability, divorce, singleness, abuse, serious accidents, death, infertility, poverty, and the one thousand thousand and i other things that bring us down - and how she, and the others How practise people cope and go along going when life throws them a curve ball? Christina begins by talking about the pain of existence fabricated redundant from a job she loved - before going on to share her own story of "losing her religion" - both topics I personally identified with. Throughout the book she talks about chronic hurting, affliction, disability, divorce, singleness, abuse, serious accidents, death, infertility, poverty, and the million and one other things that bring u.s. down - and how she, and the others she spoke to, managed to get through each day and fifty-fifty remain positive, warm people. We've all been through "stuff"; it's reassuring to know we are not alone, and to acquire how others have not just survived, but thrived. ...more
David Thomas
A fabulous, gently moving, calmly uplifting pantheon to life. I cried softly throughout. The author acknowledges that awful things are indeed awful, and offers no promises of quick fixes or complete solutions. Just a small nudge in the management of understanding. Proficient things be, amongst the wreckage, and our wreckage isn't that uncommon, or that farthermost.

A very personal, warm memoir filled with vignettes of other's lives besides, this book is startling in its sustained power to make my optics moi

A fabulous, gently moving, calmly uplifting pantheon to life. I cried softly throughout. The author acknowledges that awful things are indeed atrocious, and offers no promises of quick fixes or complete solutions. But a small nudge in the management of agreement. Expert things exist, amidst the wreckage, and our wreckage isn't that uncommon, or that extreme.

A very personal, warm memoir filled with vignettes of other's lives as well, this book is startling in its sustained ability to make my eyes moist, without noticing, or always knowing why exactly. I loved it. I cried for the atrocious trials people confront, and I cried for how they faced them, I cried when they somehow managed, and cried when they couldn't. I cried when others stepped in to help lift the brunt, I cried at the proficient times that come through, too.

I will never see the discussion 'typist' again, without a lump in my throat, and I volition e'er suspension to notice and enjoy the pocket-size just precious glory of the start sip of the commencement coffee every single solar day. Thank you Christina Patterson for this special book.

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Rhio
Jul x, 2020 rated it actually liked it
I have read lots of books and this is one book that kept me hooked until the end. There are a number of reasons why I could not put it down: first, I could relate to the emotions that surrounded each situation the author narrated; second, the way the author told her pieces was so engaging; and lastly, the tales are real so honest. Patterson articulated truth about life, death, family, women, career and honey in a very realistic way, and subtly gave advice on how not to fall autonomously in hard I have read lots of books and this is one book that kept me hooked until the end. There are a number of reasons why I could non put it downwards: showtime, I could relate to the emotions that surrounded each state of affairs the author narrated; second, the way the author told her pieces was then engaging; and lastly, the tales are real and so honest. Patterson articulated truth about life, death, family, women, career and love in a very realistic way, and subtly gave advice on how non to autumn apart in difficult moments. Needless to say, this book brought back memories of lovely London, a place with a special spot in my centre. 🥰 ...more
Charlotte Burt
3.5 stars
I picked this upwardly completely on a whim whilst browsing in the library. I don't agree with everything she says, merely information technology is well written and an easy read if a fleck depressing at times. It is not just about her losing her job and having to make her way in the earth of freelance journalism. She deals with the subject of keeping information technology together when life throws y'all a curveball either from illness, bereavement or other more mundane sources. She gives examples from her own life, her friends and other
three.5 stars
I picked this up completely on a whim whilst browsing in the library. I don't agree with everything she says, merely it is well written and an easy read if a bit depressing at times. It is not just about her losing her job and having to make her fashion in the world of freelance journalism. She deals with the subject of keeping it together when life throws yous a curveball either from illness, bereavement or other more mundane sources. She gives examples from her ain life, her friends and other folks she has interviewed over the years.
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Tomer Havivi
Feb 08, 2022 rated information technology it was amazing
A great book to plunge your feeling into. Wherever yous're feeling down or fine, information technology's an amazing book. Personally, I constitute information technology really helpful. First of all, it helped me realise and respect more how potent of a woman my mother is. Since this book is through the eyes of a person who had cancer likewise. This book is likewise a major help if you don't have many people around you lot to talk with. All the dissimilar people that are mentioned are really diverse, and so there must be someone with a similar state of affairs A smashing book to plunge your feeling into. Wherever you lot're feeling down or fine, it's an amazing volume. Personally, I plant it really helpful. First of all, it helped me realise and respect more how strong of a woman my mother is. Since this book is through the optics of a person who had cancer besides. This book is too a major help if you lot don't take many people around you lot to talk with. All the dissimilar people that are mentioned are actually diverse, and then in that location must exist someone with a like state of affairs as you, which helps yous realise that you're not the first person to become downwards this certain path. And equally the title says, it really learns you "The Art Of Not Falling Autonomously". ...more
Jasmine
Jan 19, 2021 rated information technology liked it
This was written really nicely, it was easy to follow. It had some valuable points but some of it was a bit tedious.

"People don't talk all that much about quiet courage. They don't think that navigating the earth on your own needs courage."

This was written really nicely, it was easy to follow. It had some valuable points but some of it was a chip boring.

"People don't talk all that much most placidity courage. They don't recall that navigating the world on your ain needs courage."

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S D
February 03, 2019 rated it really liked it
I actually enjoyed hearing almost unlike people'southward obstacles and experiences. Quite uplifting and well worth a look. Nicely written. I really enjoyed hearing almost dissimilar people'due south obstacles and experiences. Quite uplifting and well worth a look. Nicely written. ...more
aya
"If you lot've got a reason to moan, moan, but make sure there is a reason to moan, you don't moan because yous wanna."

Reading this book feels similar listening to a friend's rants. It feels like listening to your friend swearing on their former employer and y'all become carried abroad to swear on their former employer equally well before try to cheer your friend up and probably give them communication.
The author, indeed, wrote this volume subsequently she lost her job as a columnist. The get-go chapters of this book are basica

"If yous've got a reason to moan, moan, but brand sure there is a reason to moan, y'all don't moan considering you wanna."

Reading this book feels like listening to a friend's rants. Information technology feels like listening to your friend swearing on their sometime employer and you get carried abroad to swear on their former employer too before try to cheer your friend upward and probably give them advice.
The author, indeed, wrote this book afterward she lost her chore equally a columnist. The first chapters of this book are basically her rage and resentment on her old dominate because, let's be honest, she wasn't fired based on fair judgements.
So, yep, the offset few chapters of this book are total of her rage, resentment, sentences dripping with sarcasm. They basically the type of narration that make y'all experience angry likewise, narration that you wouldn't expect in a self-assist book.

"We learnt that information technology wasn't upwards to anyone else to brand certain nosotros had a prissy 24-hour interval."

Despite it began with pity-party after being fired from her job, the author does not merely talk near post-firing life and her rage after being fired. She besides talks nearly how she dealt with the deaths of her loved ones, being unmarried for well-nigh of her life, struggling to manage her expense, etc. etc. She talks about the rage for failing to meet the standard of a responsible and successful adult.
Ouch.
The 2nd office of this book literally filled with her wallowing of the romance in her life (or the lack thereof), her illnesses, and stuffs like that. When I read the second function, I was like, "Well ain't she completely contradicts the title", because the author really breaks downwardly. However, as I approached the finish of the 2nd part, it all fabricated sense.
Of class she must tell her story of breaking down and falling apart, or else how could she tell us what-should-be-washed and what-should-not-be-done?

"Happiness has to be worked at. I believe information technology has to exist earned. We tin can effort and we can fail. Nosotros practise not e'er succeed."

I do empathise if people thought this book is not helping at all. That this book seems to undermine low and people who are constantly trying to cope with information technology. That this volume feels like "How to Win Friends and Influence People" to introverts; it simply tries to alter people into who they are not.
Simply even the authors have several times stated that she talks most misery, not depression. She understands that depression is not something that you tin get rid off simply considering yous want to. She understands that depression is not a feeling, merely an illness.
So she talks about misery in this volume. She talks bout being pitiful, actually really really actually sad. So when she said that happiness had to be worked at, she meant to say that it has to exist earned by stop wallowing and stop drowning yourself in misery. Stop resenting others for what they had done to you without trying to address the problem itself. This book did not ask you to forgive per se, but information technology asked you to cease resenting people, because as Carrie Fisher once said, resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to dice . And I think, information technology is the poison that will eventually make yous fall autonomously.

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Evelyn
April xi, 2021 rated it liked it
The Fine art Of Not Falling Apart is best described equally a volume all most resilience and follows the author'south journey from losing her dream job to struggling to find her anxiety in the competitive world of freelance journalism. It'south a story that nigh millennials volition know as well fondly (though minus the dream task at the showtime...!) and whilst it'southward depressing in places, there is plenty positivity and sense of humor to keep the reader engaged throughout.

I do feel like I've read and then many similar stories and life journey

The Art Of Not Falling Apart is best described as a book all well-nigh resilience and follows the author's journey from losing her dream job to struggling to find her feet in the competitive world of freelance journalism. Information technology's a story that most millennials will know too fondly (though minus the dream job at the start...!) and whilst it's depressing in places, there is enough positivity and humour to go along the reader engaged throughout.

I practise experience like I've read so many similar stories and life journeys though, that this book doesn't really have anything extra which helps it to stand out amidst the crowd. If yous're younger and less cynical than I am, you may discover this more than thought-provoking on the life lessons front.

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Isla Scott
May 01, 2018 rated it really liked it
I found this to be an insightful read. Information technology was both sobering and quite agreeable at unlike times. I could relate to the authors enthusiasm for journalism, as its a line of work thats interested me personally, although with me having social anxiety I accept its not likely to exist my calling but I felt I could imagine myself in the authors shoes somewhat.

The book covers themes which are quite relatable to a number of people I'd imagine - mainly failure and besides stress (which seems specially prevale

I found this to be an insightful read. It was both sobering and quite amusing at different times. I could chronicle to the authors enthusiasm for journalism, equally its a line of piece of work thats interested me personally, although with me having social anxiety I accept its not likely to be my calling just I felt I could imagine myself in the authors shoes somewhat.

The volume covers themes which are quite relatable to a number of people I'd imagine - mainly failure and besides stress (which seems specially prevalent in the journalism industry), plus more than generally mental wellness and talk of how women who are childless are regarded in society, to name simply a few. In that sense, information technology had a feel to me of existence a book of its fourth dimension.

I liked the informal writing style - it sounds a bit like a friend talking you lot through everything. Parts of information technology read a bit like a long conversation and I enjoyed picturing said conversations with some people, both some relatively well known people simply also colleagues and acquaintances of the writer. Every bit I read on, I found it to be quite touching and poignant. I expected it to focus a bit more than specifically on the journalism side of the authors life, which it isn't entirely focussed on only the more I learnt nearly her and heard of both her and her relatives issues and backgrounds, the more I warmed to them and felt intrigued to keep reading and see what we (as the reader) would notice out next. I'd say its adequately thought provoking at times, although some people may be a bit put off by the fact that information technology perhaps doesn't accept an entirely clear plot direction as such, or whatsoever the not-fiction version of plot direction is!. Information technology flows quite well and I managed to read merely short of one-half of the book within 1 days worth of reading on and off, so it shouldn't take you too long to work your way through it.

My merely criticisms that I can recall to note hither would be that personally I would have liked a little more detail virtually the authors journalism career - its given in a sort of a drip drip fashion and also that maybe a piffling more than in the manner of an obvious structure would have been nice, although there are specific chapter titles, which are a bit ambiguous in terms of how their titled but one time y'all've read them, they make sense. Also, on ocassion information technology did sound a piffling flake similar the author was bragging, which was a bit off putting, although I feel information technology simply fair to exist articulate that the author has clearly had a off-white number of lows likewise as a few semi-improvident highs.

Overall, I couldn't say it wasn't an interesting read that I didn't enjoy. I constitute it a adequately engrossing read and I'd recommend it on that footing.

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Dee
Feb 22, 2019 rated it it was astonishing
An uplifting but not an 'aren't I wonderful' mini-memoir on coping with the things that life throws at yous. Christina is 1 of my favourite media commentators and her volume reflects her getting-on-with-it attitude. Highly recommended. An uplifting but not an 'aren't I wonderful' mini-memoir on coping with the things that life throws at you lot. Christina is ane of my favourite media commentators and her book reflects her getting-on-with-it attitude. Highly recommended. ...more
Nick
Feb 14, 2019 rated it really liked information technology
In daily life nosotros always take our day to mean solar day worries. Some of these nosotros tin worry too much in terms of our lives. We end upwards with anxiety/ depression and stress due to juggling our lives and our work. The author talks nearly dealing with major life events, losing a task. Beingness diagnosed with cancer and how her friends help her through situations though honesty rather than pity. Through history it also examines the life we are living in from western lives with mundane worries to those of Syrian refuge In daily life we always have our mean solar day to day worries. Some of these we can worry besides much in terms of our lives. Nosotros cease up with anxiety/ depression and stress due to juggling our lives and our work. The author talks about dealing with major life events, losing a task. Being diagnosed with cancer and how her friends help her through situations though honesty rather than compassion. Through history it as well examines the life we are living in from western lives with mundane worries to those of Syrian refugees who have dealt with arduousness to come up to the Great britain and endeavor to pursue better lives. A thought provoking volume in terms of searching for happiness as well as trying to concord things together when life has a trend of trying to dial y'all in the face up. It is almost trying to bounce back rather than giving upward and clinging on to the rope. ...more
Gisela Valdera
I bought this volume the calendar week after I packed all my belongings in a suitcase and moved from my sunny southern european city to London.

I was, as most people are when they go through a period of awe-inspiring change, a big pile of feet and worried thoughts. I was having problem sleeping at night and oft had to stop during the day to distract myself from my ain thoughts.

I had downloaded a bunch of meditation apps onto my phone that weren't all that helpful and was looking for something else to he

I bought this book the week after I packed all my holding in a suitcase and moved from my sunny southern european city to London.

I was, as most people are when they go through a flow of awe-inspiring change, a big pile of feet and worried thoughts. I was having trouble sleeping at dark and ofttimes had to stop during the day to distract myself from my ain thoughts.

I had downloaded a bunch of meditation apps onto my phone that weren't all that helpful and was looking for something else to assistance with my anxiety when I popped into a Waterstone's and asked the lady at the front end desk-bound where the self-help section was.

Now, I won't lie: I bought Christina's book mostly because I liked the cover. I'm a graphic designer. A proficient cover and a rating in a higher place 3 on Goodreads is oft all that'due south required to describe me in.

I bought the Art of Not Falling Apart thinking information technology would exist one of those typical cocky-aid books that give y'all lots of communication on animate techniques, the art of keeping a clean fat and how you can't succeed without failure. I'm very thankful that it wasn't.

The Art of Non Falling Apart is a memoir of the near beautiful kind. An ode to good friendships and a nice cup of vino, 2 things essential to living in this modern mean solar day order that seems to be filled with dubiousness and doubt at every stride. It's nearly the turmoils of dating and finding out you enjoy being alone more. It's almost working and getting fired, well-nigh having the carpet pulled out beneath your feet just as you call back y'all're getting your bearings.

At that place were parts of the book that I securely resonated with and others, for at present at least, non so much. I'1000 only 22 and thankfully have yet to face up the grief of losing someone beloved to me or battling a serious disease. Still, I'm ever so grateful to have read this memoir. I feel now ever so slightly more ready to deal with the crap life will throw at me soon enough and I think that, lone, is worthy of great kudos.

Not that anyone volition read this, merely I genuinely wanted to say give thanks yous to Christina and everyone she interviewed, particularly her friends dealing with so much shit with such forcefulness. I cried like an accented baby reading the last couple of pages. Christina'southward love for her female parent is cute and true and I'm very happy she found someone to share her future with.

I expect forward to passing my copy along to another friend with anxiety or dubiousness. I have no doubts it will help them, fifty-fifty if merely a petty.

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Apoorva
Jan 05, 2020 rated it really liked it
A very smooth book portraying life as information technology is, with all it'southward ups and downs. A humble depiction of tumbling through life and finding balance.

A pleasant and refreshing read.

A very smooth book portraying life as it is, with all it's ups and downs. A humble delineation of tumbling through life and finding balance.

A pleasant and refreshing read.

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Anna Renee
Apr 18, 2021 rated it it was astonishing
I had had a crude week when I decided to head to the library that morning. So naturally a book that promised to tell me how not to autumn autonomously beckoned from the shelves. I picked it up and flipped it to read the synopsis. Two sentences in and the phrase, "irritated with cocky-help books" appeared and I recollect at that point I was pretty much sold. But I did my due diligence and flipped a few pages. Information technology didn't read like a cocky-help book as the title seemed to suggest so I thought, Okay, someone's foun I had had a rough week when I decided to head to the library that morning. And then naturally a book that promised to tell me how not to autumn apart beckoned from the shelves. I picked it upwards and flipped it to read the synopsis. Two sentences in and the phrase, "irritated with self-help books" appeared and I think at that point I was pretty much sold. But I did my due diligence and flipped a few pages. It didn't read like a self-help book as the title seemed to suggest so I thought, Okay, someone'due south plant a way to write a self-help in a less irritating way. I still idea it'd be some sort of manual merely I brought it home anyway. When life seems to be hard to bear, I guess i would accept annihilation that remotely suggests salvation home.

Merely then I didn't read information technology. And in the week that followed, Life decided to throw me another curveball, one that I couldn't bat away. And I think pieces of me became in real danger of detaching and emotionally and physically, I felt like I was going to shatter. This book was on my side table just staring at me but my teary eyes could not see by the blurred stack. Actually a book rarely tin save someone. I got pulled out of darkness because someone loves me deeply. But the challenge I was being taunted with was certainly not over. Then since I could at present keep the pathetic weeping under control, and could actually encounter the title over again, I decided to finally get downward to reading it.

I read the whole affair in a 24-hour interval and 2 nights, thankful that it was a solo Sunday and I had to put information technology down and be interrupted merely 4 times. I would have otherwise been irritated because the book was gripping. When I completed reading it, my heart was thumping so hard, I could hear information technology every bit I rested with my ear against the pillow.

As it turned out, this was more a memoir, or maybe a collection of memoirs considering there were so many stories that Patterson included. And then many generous sharings by people who take had to survive without falling apart. At besides many points of the story, I felt similar I was peering into secrets I had no business concern knowing and there was also a guilt - the guilt of feeling "Hey, my life'south at least not every bit bad every bit so-and-so", which, in my stance, is horrible considering finding happiness because other people are worse off is a horrid and selfish path to contentment. Only Misery loves company and when I'd finished reprimanding myself for being horrible, I realised I felt less lonely. I don't know the people Patterson writes about. And before reading this book, I never heard of Patterson. Just somehow knowing that I am not the only ane trying not to fall autonomously is comforting. And knowing people have and continue to succeed in not falling apart is hopeful.

At that place is a flick at the back of the book of Patterson. Where I typically don't like books that accept pictures because they tend to thwart my own imagination which I dearest indulging in, I was quite happy when I realised I could put a face up to this person who had shared and then much of herself with me, the reader, the ane who picked upwardly the book considering I felt like I was going to lose information technology soon.

Betwixt the existent anecdotes and raw sharing, the poetry and life lessons, I experience entirely nourished past this book. I feel thankful to take read it. I experience both contemplative and fortified, however frightened of everything that is and is to come up, but also a trivial more hopeful. Perchance, like Martin Luther King's faith, out of the mountain of despair, I could hew out a stone of promise afterward all.

I don't drinkable wine but as I empathize it, good wine takes time to ferment. This is probably an apt analogy for good books. I've been so entranced past Patterson's words, I experience a need to review the book the first hazard I got. But I am certain that with time, her opinions and commentary on life volition have dissimilar furnishings on me. Then with the disclaimer that I have still to permit my thoughts ferment, here are some of my reflections:

***[The residual of this review contains some spoilers. Delight finish here if you rather read the book first.]***

Part 1 - Falling is about the things that suspension people. In it contains the testimonies of people who have undergone heartache, grief (both sudden and unexpected, every bit well as the kind that loomed over threateningly), astringent affliction, abuse, mental health issues, discrimination, and those who struggled with facing the possibility of facing life solitary, not being able to have children, failed marriages, failed careers and not making plenty to pay the bills. Information technology is many narratives of pitiful and harsh realities of life. I identified with some of the people. I recognised some of this pain. I recognised some of the coping mechanisms and the different responses people accept. I recognised how unlike people have different levels of what they could put up with. I was reminded that hurting is e'er valid and no 1 should invalidate his or her own or worse, that of others. I was reminded that some people get in. Merely some don't. I was reminded that if I was going to make it through, I had to desire to make it through.

Part ii - Gathering is, as I interpret it (because Patterson's lovely style is not so prescriptive or explicit), about drawing strength from 3 principal sources: 1. thoughtful, kind and generous people (who I have recently come to realise, which I for so long didn't trust or were afraid of, are actually possible to observe); 2. small pleasures of life; 3. a pursuit of something meaningful.

Role three - Fighting Back is about beating the odds. The stories share different ways people do this including the historic period-quondam wisdom of acceptance, being open to possibilities that eventually bring good things that help one observe la dolce vita again, recognising that every day you lot survive is testament to your resilience and a quiet courage you posses and that ought to be celebrated, recalibrating life to what truly matters, choosing to live and living with "pessimism in intellect, optimism in will".

I doubt I will ever agree with Patterson'south preference to be her own person and non become married (once again), I don't think I could be as comfy to reach out to and then many people in fourth dimension of need, I certainly can't yet imagine myself to be able to accept and then peacefully the things that I have no control or influence over. Merely I recall I volition conduct many of the stories in this book like little pebbles of hope in my pockets moving forrad. If annihilation, to remind myself that it's still possible to not fall apart.

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Zora
Jul 14, 2018 rated it liked information technology
This book caught my attention when the author was interviewed, alongside Olivia Laing, on a recent Guardian book podcast about motorcar fiction. Now this book is clearly not auto fiction and shares piddling in common with Laing's Crudo, which is magnificent. Only in its ain style it is pretty special. The immensely likeable writer (I know why she has lots of friends ) using her ain life, and those of others (generally good friends, plus occasional semi famous people like Frieda Hughes, daughter of Ted and S This book caught my attention when the author was interviewed, alongside Olivia Laing, on a recent Guardian book podcast about auto fiction. At present this volume is clearly non machine fiction and shares petty in mutual with Laing's Crudo, which is magnificent. But in its own style information technology is pretty special. The immensely likeable author (I know why she has lots of friends ) using her own life, and those of others (mostly good friends, plus occasional semi famous people similar Frieda Hughes, daughter of Ted and Sylvia) contemplates what happens when Shit Happens. Rather than erecting borders between the single and the coupled, those who accept spawned and those who haven't, those who have coin and those who practise non, the healthy and the sick, the author instead celebrates humanity in its diversity, while too leaving room for ugly feelings. She is a long time journo and this volume reads accordingly - ie it's a fast, like shooting fish in a barrel read rather than high literature. There is some unnecessary filler too merely asked to place which bits should get I could non say. 3 stars is a bit miserly given the warm feelings and good companionship this book provided for a couple of days. Not my usual bag, but I am glad it crossed my path. Excuse the mixed metaphors etc. ...more than
caturix
Jun 12, 2018 rated information technology really liked it
This wonderful non fiction read follows our author through the misogynistic and unfair media manufacture as a announcer.
So for Christina Patterson, a former columnist at the Independent and Director of Poetry Society who writes about society, culture, politics, books and the arts as well equally being shortlisted for the Orwell Prize in 2013 for her campaigning piece of work to enhance standards in nursing, takes us as readers on an honest and man trip of what kept her going through the ups and downs of life.
This wonderful non fiction read follows our author through the misogynistic and unfair media industry equally a announcer.
And then for Christina Patterson, a former columnist at the Contained and Manager of Poetry Lodge who writes about lodge, culture, politics, books and the arts as well as existence shortlisted for the Orwell Prize in 2013 for her campaigning piece of work to enhance standards in nursing, takes the states as readers on an honest and homo trip of what kept her going through the ups and downs of life.
At that place's a Woody Allen quote that goes if you want to make God laugh, so tell him your plans just it's safe to say that most of us don't observe ordinary tragedies and struggles of every day as amusing as omniscient deities.
Patterson's writing is honest, to the point yet page turning. Her story that is in first person is an honest celebration of life as an risk and the perfect advice to when it's fourth dimension to drop loftier expectations, worries and woes.
A must read for those at the end of the nerves with life and its unfair nature ~ The Art of Not Falling Autonomously is a volume anybody needs in their life and bookshelf.
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